5 ways to embrace singleness as a woman.

1.Build a relationship with God- this is the foundation of everything, because it helps you spiritually, emotionally and psychologically. It helps you to have a clearer purpose for your life, aim high and not settle for less. It helps you to understand your value as a woman, which is very important, and it boosts your self-esteem. He teaches you how to love, I mean real love, and helps you to be patient, forgiving and removes jealousy.

2. Preparations- proverbs 31 vs 27- “ she watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness”. Whilst we are in our early 20’s, it is important to prepare for our future, and learn what being a wife involves. Yes, marriage is a beautiful thing, but we need to remember that it’s not a bed of roses, and there are several things that we can start preparing for whilst we are still single.

For example- submission- a lot of us will struggle with this, especially if we are strong minded, or strong willed by nature. So while we are single we need to train ourselves to be submissive, first by being submissive to God, because once you learn to be submissive to God, it becomes easier to be submissive to your husband. So read the bible and see what is says about submission. 1 Corinthians: 11 vs 3

Secondly, prepare for your future- taking opportunities and working hard, and not being idol. “she watches over the affairs of her house”. Do you observe what goes on in your household? It’s a good habit to make a mental note of when things are running out or running low, so that you can top up or replenish the stocks. It’s surprising how little things like this could cause arguments in a marriage. For example, if the washing up liquid runs out and the dishes are not washed, or the  laundries  are not done, and things are piling up, could lead to petty arguments, and this can be avoided by preparation. So I’m not saying that women should do all the house work, but seeing well to the ways of the house hold ensures that it runs smoothly

3. Embrace womanhood-  There are two parts to this- firstly making an effort in your physical appearance. For example, in the bible is stated that it took ester 12 month to beautify herself before she was presented to her husband. It's not about following trends or out competing other women, but it’s about embracing your natural beauty and enhancing your appearance and fragrance.
Secondly embrace your maternal instinct and caring side. Proverbs 31 :26 “she opens her mouth in wisdom and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue”. Speak in a loving manner to people, with wisdom, and the ability to pass on this wisdom in a kind manner, as a mother would to her child.

4. Learn to love yourself- I used to think that having a boyfriend or a husband would make me feel complete, but I now realise that through loving myself, his place would be to compliment me and not to complete me. The truth is that guys like confident women, and if a guy truly loves you he will accept you for who you are and support you in reaching your potentials. So before you can love anyone else, you have to love God first to be able to love yourself, and then you can truly love someone.

5. Discover your purpose- once you discover your purpose work towards it and stick to it, because often, relationships cause people to disregard their purpose, and shape their lives around their partner. However, being single enables you to think straight, clearly identify your purpose and strive towards it, without the influence and pressures of a relationship.